My WisCon 41 (Somewhat Tired and Rambling) Recap

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Before I talk about WisCon 41, I wanted to address a few administrivia-related bits. First, a shout-out to Michael Matheson. Michael’s short story “Until There is Only Hunger”, which appeared in Upside Down: Inverted Tropes in Storytelling, was longlisted for the 2017 Sunburst Awards. Huzzah! Second, if you’re in the mood for clicking around the internet, check out the Ropecon 2017 Guests of Honour page as well. And, lastly, if you’re expected a Make Art Not War 2017 check-in, I’m postponing that until tomorrow so I can announce June’s theme and do my month-end recap.

Most of my WisCon 41 recap will be general, rather than specific, because I had so many conversations with several talented individuals that I lost track of the awesome. I plan on featuring some folks for upcoming installments of my Friendly Friday posts, and I’m sure you’ll enjoy checking out their work.

First things first: I know that the backlash I experienced as a result from my withdrawal as a GOH from OdysseyCon was a concern for many people for a number of reasons. In that regard, I felt that WisCon 41 staff went out of their way to ensure that I was okay and was not harassed in any way shape or form. Staff was apprised of the situation, con safety volunteers were clearly visible, and all checked in on me from time to time. Several friends and attendees did as well, and I felt the people I’d never met before who approached me were very respectful. Attending WisCon turned out to be a good experience for me, because it definitely lessened my anxiety prior to my summer conventions. I was asked: “Would I ever go back to Odyssey Con?” At this time, my answer is: “I don’t know.” While I won’t go into the private exchange, I did send an e-mail on April 12th to Odyssey Con that has not been answered to address what has happened and (hopefully) prevent such mistakes in the future.

On What Being an Attending Creator Means

As a result of this, however, my thoughts on what it means to be a creator at a convention are turning out to be more complicated than I expected. My experiences with celebrity guests (e.g. authors/artists/actors, etc. who are paid to be at an event, either through the studio, publisher, or via the convention) has always been to regard those occurrences as work. This is why many celebrities (or their representatives) sign a contract that clearly spells out what’s required of them. While I do not regard myself as a celebrity, I have attended conventions either with or on behalf of publishers. I also have a teeny, tiny amount of fame that I actively maintain to publish more and engage with fans, so in my mind I’m a micro-celebrity. Regardless, the word “celebrity” is definitely a type of job in my mind, and even if creators like myself touch upon an aspect of this role in our careers it still should be considered work.

This is where my feelings tend to be more complex. Not only are so, so, so many of us are untrained to deal with being in the public eye and all that it entails, both positive and problematic, many creators aren’t paid to perform that work nor does everyone regard it as such. Some creators attend conventions to have fun and, because they’re having a good time, don’t think of it as a job. Like many, I often pay to attend conventions out of pocket, and I have to make a decision whether or not that money will be well spent. Unfortunately, it’s only when an appearance turns sour that missed details suddenly become more important. Why didn’t a con, for example, think to ask a creator if they had an issue with a stalker, preemptively ban/have processes in place to deal with someone who’s been reported multiple times over, or plan downtime so creators aren’t on six panels in one day? I think, here, the answer is that perhaps some volunteer-run cons don’t regard what they do as work, and wind up underestimating what it takes to put on a good show.

Whether you’re a volunteer or not, planning a convention is definitely requires lot of labor, and often conventions are formulated as a business entity or LLC to accommodate the financials and business decisions attached. So, in my mind, there was never a question that conventions were, in fact, work; it’s true that I’ve struggled with what my role as a participant or attendee was over the years, because varying degrees of professionalism are often present at conventions and it can be hard to know where you fit or find people to hang with. As a guest, however? That, to me, is not just an honorific, but a specific role that comes with expectations attached for both parties. Perhaps treating guests and panelists through a contractual lens, similar to how some celebrities deal with conventions, might be one approach to address concerns ahead of time? I’m honestly not sure.

The other thing I realized, is that my life as a creator has gotten considerably harder since 2014. The last couple of years have absolutely been challenging both privately and professionally. I do not get paid to be harassed; I get paid to write and deliver on time. “Just get offline” doesn’t cover damages caused by less PR/engagement given my current visibility, picking up the pieces after getting doxed, making sure social accounts are locked down, and the toll it takes on you emotionally. That time spent is the hidden cost of harassment; it becomes all that much harder to network, find work, remain enthusiastic, and fulfill obligations. This, being a creator, is my job and it’s one where I only earn money if I complete my obligations on time in a quality folks expect. Right now, work is all I can think about.

“Just get offline” is not a solution, and neither is “find another job.” This is my job, I love it dearly, and I’m not abandoning the tools I need to utilize in my career. I would really appreciate it, however, if being harassed wasn’t an expectation or a baseline threat. And, if it is going to be this way both now and in the future, then let’s talk solutions. Let’s talk about training and mentorship to help others through this so they’re prepared if and when something happens to them. Let’s remind ourselves that all creators are working, and being treated well shouldn’t matter whether we’re super-famous or not, and our jobs/livelihoods are at risk. Lastly, let’s continue to find ways to have fun with the fans who do appreciate and actively support us, too. Isn’t that why we’re here?

An Emotional Convention

Shifting gears… (Hey, I did warn you this post was going to be long and rambling.) WisCon 41 took on a special meaning this year given its emphasis on feminism, building communities, literature, and fandom. The death of Carrie Fischer and the loss of long-time attendees, when coupled with the rise in racist attacks and totalitarianism, is a lot to process through one-on-one conversations and panels. It was needed, and it was often emotional. I also spent a lot of time touching base with peers and friends, and heard their stories and news, both good and bad. Now, I feel like I’m a bit hungover–but in a good way.

I want to emphasize the word “stories” here again, and not just because there are so many authors at this convention who hailed from a diverse range of backgrounds. I believe that everyone has a story to tell, and WisCon reinforces that in many ways. Time and time again, the themes that propagated through the panels and discussions that I had was the importance of being open to failure, that representation is additive and not subtractive, that protesting and standing up for what’s right has costs associated with that and not everyone can participate or voice their frustration in the same way. Often, especially online, there’s a pressure to be right, to be heard, to know everything there is to know about everything–but that’s impossible. We cannot know what it’s like to fill the shoes of everyone else, because the ability to research is not a replacement for the necessity of experience. Sometimes, the only way to learn is to listen. Other times, we may not be able to internalize what it’s like to have a different identity–and that’s okay.

Sometimes, the idea that not everything is ours to take can feel a bit limiting. I don’t agree at all. By recognizing what stories aren’t ours to tell, we can focus on what makes each of us unique as individuals and sharpen our own voices. This makes our writing better! (Oh, I’m not perfect and I feel like I’m always learning. To me, that’s all part of the gig.) What WisCon 41 reinforced for me, however, is that sometimes listening is an act not only of compassion, but of empathy and a willingness to step aside and hear someone else’s story. There is a lot of power in the ability to listen, and I have to wonder if we’re afraid of what we’ll hear.

Mind you, I’m no sage. I don’t know what the future will hold, and I don’t think anyone else does, either. What we can learn from, however, is the experiences of those who have come before. So much static history is lost, and remains undocumented or fragmented. Shows like this are important so we can listen to living bits of history, and remember that we are not alone in our daily lives, in our struggles, in our fandoms. That rich fabric of intersecting narratives, when coupled with the many talented authors, editors, and artists present at this convention, gives me hope. That’s a pretty damn cool feeling to walk away with, and I can’t wait for what’s to come.

Lastly, I want to give one final shout-out to how amazing the guests of honor, Kelly Sue DeConnick and Amal El-Mohtar, are. If you haven’t had the opportunity to check out their work, please do so. There is nothing more fabulous than being able to congratulate them on their success, and I’m certain both will continue to be icons in their fields. They are incredible, lovely people, and I wish them well. Huzzah!

Caffeinated Beverages Consumed: More than I needed, but less than I care to admit.
Work-Out Minutes Logged Yesterday: Hunting Pokemon
In My Ears: Silence. (Seriously, noise-cancelling headphones are the bomb.)
Game Last Played: Pokemon Go
Book Last Read: Kim Stanley Robinson’s Aurora
Movie/TV Show Last Viewed: La Belle et la Bete.
Latest Artistic Project: Make Art Not War 2017 Challenge and Rules
Latest Releases: In Volo’s Wake for Dungeons & Dragons 5th Edition, Unknown Armies Books 1-3, and Kobold Guide to Gamemastering.
Current State of Projects: Read my latest project update. New project update coming when I get time.

Finland, Finland, Finland!

I am happy to announce that I am a guest of honor at Ropecon in gorgeous Helsinki, Finland in July.

From the Ropecon website: “Ropecon is the largest non-commercial role-playing convention in Europe. Each year it brings together both enthusiasts as well as professionals in the field of role-playing games. The theme for year 2017 is classics.”

I am thrilled to be heading over to Finland for the first time. The convention website is awesome! Check out the pictures from Ropecon, which includes a lovely set of cosplayers. The work they put into dressing up never ceases to amaze me–there are some fantastic photos!

Can’t wait to share more details with you as the planning comes together. See you in Finland! Don’t forget your dice!

Mark Your Calendar for WisCon

I am pleased to announce that my next convention will be WisCon at the end of May. The guests of honor are Amal El-Mohtar and Kelly Sue DeConnick. I am participating and moderating several panels, and I am anxious to hear what this year’s stellar speakers have to say. Hope to see you at the show!

Tropes In SF Novels, Comics, and Video Games
Sat, 1:00–2:15 pm Location: Conference 1
Kate M Lansky (M), Jake Casella, Monica Valentinelli
SF is a genre that crosses media — novels, poetry, comics, video games, movies, and TV. How do SF stories differ from medium to medium? What tropes does each medium use and why? What kinds of stories are in vogue in each medium? Are there SF tropes that are better used in novels? In games? And why?

Portraying Resistance: Fiction Media and News Media
Sun, 10:00–11:15 am Location: Assembly
Monica Valentinelli (M), Nino Cipri, Ian K. Hagemann
How are resistance movements portrayed in speculative fiction? While some forms of fiction glamorize resistance movements (Star Wars comes to mind) there is a wide gap between this and how news media portrays, for example, the Ferguson movement. Are the only safe resistances fictional (or historical) ones? How do we get from “riots” to “heroic uprisings”? Fictional resistances are also able to gloss over the problematic details of committee meetings, arguments between members, lack of funds, trying to feed crowds, unequal division of labor, and trying to come to consensus. Are there fictional resistances that deal with these details and with sexism, racism, homophobia? Can we learn from fiction how to portray real resistance movements as heroic?

Why Is “Casual” a Dirty Word in Gaming?
Sun, 1:00–2:15 pm Location: University C
Monica Valentinelli (M), Katherine Cross, Ann Lemay, Katherine Olson (Kayjayoh), Beth Plutchak, Katie Sapede
Video gaming is set to become a 99.6 billion dollar industry and is cemented into the mainstream. Why are “casual gamers” still a hated group? Why do we need to separate them from “hard-core gamers”? Let’s explore why some in the gaming community hold on tightly to excluding “casual gamers.”

Worldbuilding Through Profanity
Sun, 4:00–5:15 pm Location: Caucus
Monica Valentinelli (M), Dylan Edwards, Benjamin Rosenbaum
Swearing is something that comes naturally to people. Swearing is also highly cultural. ‘Damn!’ only works if a culture has the concept of damnation. Short versus long invocations, it all goes together. How do you construct a swearing culture for a new people? How does it vary by social class? Let’s find out.

Registration is capped, so if you’re interested in attending be sure to visit the WisCon website.

Convention Prep: Geeking Out about My Top 5 Makeup Must-Haves

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One of the things I love to do is play with makeup, and I don’t get the opportunity to geek out about it very much–so I thought I’d do it here. My recommendations are meant to be for anyone, regardless of gender, age, etc. who’s interested. To that end, I did double-check to make sure my must-haves were available in multiple skin tones, and comments are open if you want to leave specific suggestions.

Before I get to my must-haves, I wanted to mention that one of the most important things you can do is figure out your skin type. There’s a lot of advice out there that talks about what layers you need (primer, lotion, etc.) to put on your face before applying makeup, but often what you use (or how many layers you apply) depends upon your skin’s composition. For example, tons of people put on CC or BB cream; using that as a base tends to make your face slick because it has sunscreen. If your skin is naturally oily, then it will probably feel even slicker if you layer lotions, etc. beneath that. If you’re not sure what type of skin you have, it’s worth visiting a consultant at a department store or a specialty shop like Sephora or Ulta to help you get a baseline.

1. Urban Decay De-Slick Powder

I love this powder. The Urban Decay De-Slick Powder is an odorless, colorless powder that can be worn by itself or with makeup. It is designed to control shine, and it works like a charm to offset humidity, sweat, etc. perfect for long days or summer cons. Urban Decay is sold direct through their website, or you can find the line at Sephora and Ulta.

2. Urban Decay Eyeshadow Primer Potion

If you have issues with slick eyelids as the day goes on, this potion is magical. There are three different types that can be worn under eyeshadow or by themselves. By far, the Urban Decay Eyeshadow Primer has been one of the best ways to give a little coverage and prevent greasy eyelids. If that’s a concern, you can pick up the Urban Decay Lockdown Duo to help set your makeup, or you can use blotting papers instead.

3. Moodstruck Minerals Stiff Upper Lip Stain

Younique has some interesting products to try, and I’ve had good luck with their Moodstruck 3D Fiber Lashes and the Moodstruck Minerals Stiff Upper Lip Stain. The stain goes on like a lip gloss, but it dries out, coloring your lips for hours. I usually pair the stain with regular chapstick or clear gloss; the benefit of doing this is fantastic. I don’t have to look in the mirror to apply the gloss, and the color stays on all day. The only tip I have is that you use a lip exfoliator, like this amazing Mary Kay Satin Lips set, to make sure your skin is smooth before staining them.

4. Perfekt Undereye Concealer

Dark circles, red eyes, and puffy under eye skin are definitely a hazard if you stay up late at night. I often bring Visine with me to help with the redness, and for puffy eyes, I use Alba Botanica Green Tea Gel or All About Eyes Serum De-Puffer by Clinique. (There’s a lovely article about various methods to de-puff eyes here, if you’re interested.) For undereye concealer, I use Perfekt Skin Perfection Concealer. When applying, you only need a little bit. Its lighter-than-air, so it doesn’t cake, and if you use it in a criss-cross pattern beneath the eye stretching to the top of the cheekbone it’ll blend well.

5. Maybelline The Blushed Nudes Palette

I really enjoy playing around with eyeshadow palettes, and some like the kits from Stila, are better than others. I’ve been very surprised by the quality of Maybelline’s sets, and have been really happy with the quality. At cons, I like a variety of shades and small compacts travel well. Maybelline’s The Blushed Nudes are a great buy for the money, and the metallics aren’t grainy. There’s a ton of other Maybelline eyeshadow palettes that I haven’t tried yet, too. The nice thing is that Maybelline is available in drug stores and in specialty makeup stores, plus they’re hella affordable and portable.

Hope you enjoyed this post! I had a lot of fun writing it and geeking out about makeup.

    Mood: Naptime?
    Caffeinated Beverages Consumed: Quite a bit.
    Work-Out Minutes Logged Yesterday: Laundry, laundry, laundry
    In My Ears: Space heater
    Game Last Played: Final Fantasy X-2: The Last Mission
    Book Last Read: Black Unicorn
    Movie/TV Show Last Viewed: Legend of the Seeker
    Latest Artistic Project: Make Art Not War 2017 Challenge and Rules
    Latest Releases: In Volo’s Wake for Dungeons & Dragons 5th Edition. Read my end-of-the-year list of releases for an overview of what I’ve put out for 2016.
    Current State of Projects: Read my latest project update. New project update coming this month!

Mark Your Calendar for GameHoleCon 2017

GameHoleCon 2017 in Madison, Wisconsin

I am pleased to announce that I will be a guest for this year’s Gamehole Con, which takes place November 2nd through November 5th at the Alliant Energy Center in Madison, Wisconsin.

“Gamehole Con is the largest tabletop gaming convention in the upper Midwest. Tabletop gamers from around the country gather each November in Madison, WI for this carnival of gaming. The convention features role-playing games, board games, fantasy and historical miniature gaming, and collectible card games. If you are a tabletop gaming fan, do not miss Gamehole Con!”

I’ll have more announcements about the show in the coming months. I hope you consider joining us at the show!

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