Day 7: De-Peopling Post-Con

*cue ominous music* It’s been a week since I went dark. In today’s post, find out how one semi-neurotic really feels about not being on Twitter and Facebook.

DOM DOM DOM.

Okay, so today I really wanted to log in. After writing my thank you letter to OddCon, I wanted to pop in and add people, write on their Wall, etc.

Yeah, so instead I’m being a little whiny about it here. *pouts* All right, that’s enough of the gloomy music.

In all honesty, it sucks on my end to tell people, “Well, I’m not going to be on Facebook or Twitter for a while.” Although business cards are important, most people I’ve talked to at conventions use Facebook or Twitter to look someone up as opposed to just researching someone through Google. That tells me what you post on Twitter or Facebook is more important than just what employers see. For authors, it’s especially difficult because there’s often three roles we have: personal, “day job,” and as an author. Those don’t always coincide, which someone mentioned might be another benefit of having the Monica Valentinelli author Facebook page. I didn’t think about it that way, but separating readers from people I know on a more personal level could help me keep a degree of separation between those two lives. Hard to say, of course. Especially right now.

Anyway, just thought it was interesting that part of my post-con ritual has been interrupted by my black out. I absolutely want to connect with people and follow up on social media, not just because these are tools that I use, but also because that’s what everyone else is doing, too.

And now, I go back to de-peopling.

About 100 Days: From April 4th to July 13th I’m turning the lights off on Facebook, Twitter and IMs for personal use. Read 100 Days: Turning off the Lights on Social Media for more information. You can also read the 100 Days post archive.

Day 5 of 100: Social Media is More Than Noise

Well, it’s the fifth day now since I’ve started this one-hundred day blackout, and already I can tell that this experiment wasn’t as simple as “tuning out the noise.” What I found, through the course of dealing with a bunch of snafus, is that I’ve been relying on these tools to resolve problems. For some of those issues, like communicating when my site goes down, there is no other tool that exists to send out a message.

Going dark has forced me to circumvent what I normally do, in an attempt to resolve a problem I normally solve through social media. I didn’t expect that to happen. I mean, it’s not even the end of the week and I’m already realizing I use these tools for more than just inane babble and telling you what I eat every day.

Note: I heartily enjoy a decent plate of nachos with real cheese. None of that orange reconstituted dust in a can business.

Sorry, I just had to throw that in there. Anyway, it’s interesting that I’ve experienced first-hand what I often tell people about social media. These are tools that have multiple uses. They don’t just facilitate a constant stream of noise; pick apart what Twitter or Facebook or IMs are being used for and they turn into complex information networks.

Believe me, while I miss some of the conversations with friends that live long distances away, I am enjoying the break. Written words are sounds to me; always have been, always will be. So cutting down on that stream has helped me shrink my world considerably, which is what I felt I needed to do.

I’m not going to post during my appearance at OddCon, but I will do a wrap-up post for the week and another one about OddCon. I’m curious to see if anyone is going to bring this experiment up; I’ve had a few instances where people I’ve never met before mention things that I’ve said online. We shall see what the weekend brings, I suppose. Hopefully, a million sales of The Queen of Crows, right? RIGHT?

What? I’m innocent! No, really.

Okay, you can stop laughing now.

About 100 Days: From April 4th to July 13th I’m turning the lights off on Facebook, Twitter and IMs for personal use. Read 100 Days: Turning off the Lights on Social Media for more information. You can also read the 100 Days post archive.

Day 4 of 100: Crowdsourcing Versus Experts

Found myself needing advice today, and mentally ran through my cyber-deck of experts to see who I could e-mail about a few things.

In the time that I spent explaining what I wanted in an e-mail, I could have ran to Twitter and said: “Hey, anyone know of…” or “Anyone have a link for…” Instead, I e-mailed people I knew and asked for their advice.

There’s a huge difference between tapping into “the hive mind” where you may get a bevy of responses you can judge quickly, as opposed to getting one response from a trusted source. When you get a variety of responses from multiple people, you can ascertain if the value of the advice is similar and pick the best option. By singling out an individual, you’re viewing them as someone who will give you that best option.

The other benefit to asking an individual for advice, is that you are making a personal connection through a one-to-one exchange. You’re saying: “Hey, I trust that you’re going to give me the right information.” With crowd-sourcing, that dynamic changes because now the onus isn’t on you for the connection. You’re throwing something against the wall publicly, almost like posting a flyer, and the other people who see that will either chime in or not.

What’s also interesting about the crowdsourcing on social media to me, is that sometimes it feels like a trivia game. The volume of people using Twitter or similar tools to ask questions is pretty staggering. When people respond, often I feel like it’s because they’re trying to establish themselves as an expert for that particular category.

One thing I have noticed, is that when I’ve asked questions in the past not because I didn’t know the answer, but because I wanted to strike up conversations, some people treat me as if: “Well, duh! How come you don’t know this?” In other words, some people view questions as an indication that the person lacks knowledge or intelligence on that topic. To me, that’s fascinating because that may highlight how little we know people we talk to on social media. If we’re there for the conversation, then are we fulfilled simply by the interaction? If the other person on the end of the line wasn’t a human being, but a robot — could we tell the difference?

About 100 Days: From April 4th to July 13th I’m turning the lights off on Facebook, Twitter and IMs for personal use. Read 100 Days: Turning off the Lights on Social Media for more information. You can also read the 100 Days post archive.

Day 3 of 100: When Systems Fail

Of course, right after I go dark on social media, my webhost starts having problems. For the past couple of days, service has been spotty, which has no doubt affected your ability to read the posts I’ve been writing.

It’s even more frustrating on my end because I didn’t want to get back on Facebook/Twitter just to communicate server issues. My options were either a) not say anything b) have someone else say something or c) leave it alone.

I chose to leave it alone and logged the dates, but it brought up another realization. While it’s great to have a website, if you have pretty decent traffic and all of a sudden your website goes down — then what? How do you let people know the status? You can’t email everyone but you could send a message out to Twitter and Facebook where it has a better chance of reaching people. No, it may not hit everyone, but shooting out that information would be doing due diligence.

So yeah, in this case my site having troubles lately has nothing to do with Starscream (my computer). Completely random occurrence that just so happened to coincide with going dark. Curses, foiled again!

If you have recommendations for webhosts, please post them in the comments below. Thank you!

About 100 Days: From April 4th to July 13th I’m turning the lights off on Facebook, Twitter and IMs for personal use. Read 100 Days: Turning off the Lights on Social Media for more information. You can also read the 100 Days post archive.

Day 2 of 100: On News and Sharing Links

I’ve always known intellectually that it’s easier to share links through social media, but I had no idea how quickly that would impact me.

Last night, we had some friends over and they had mentioned this article about how the app pricing model doesn’t work RPGs. Because I hadn’t been on Twitter or Facebook, I didn’t see the article.

Here’s where it got interesting for me.

In a typical day, I would have booted up Twitter or Facebook, looked it up on one of their profiles and then clicked over to the article. Since I made a pledge not to use those tools, now if I want the article I have to do one of three things: a) ask for someone to e-mail me the link b) type in the domain name of the article and manually look for it there or c) use natural search to find it.

Internet http, photo from sxc.huI used natural search and found it pretty quickly, in part because the article was recently published and the domain had good SEO. For articles that haven’t been published in a while that are suddenly popular again? Well, that might get a little more time-consuming because it may not be apparent what the newest or the most popular pages on a website are. Plus, not every website has great SEO. There are some domains I’ve researched for professional reasons that didn’t even rank for their own brand name.

The other interesting thing about getting a link on Twitter or Facebook, is that I don’t need to rely on asking someone to share something with me that they think is cool. By following people I like, admire or want to learn from, I can see what they’re reading without ever developing a face-to-face connection. Sometimes it’s funny; sometimes it’s informative. Regardless, it’s a potpourri of information that points directly where I’d need to go, rather than house all that information on one website and ask me to take a second or third click.

Of course, with some of the advances in the web recently, I’m seeing more and more regular websites integrate with Facebook and Twitter. I’m not a hundred percent sure that’s such a good idea because even though those links come through social media, some of the business-related ones (e.g. products and whatnot) look really fake. I’m of the belief that not every website needs to integrate with social media, especially since it’s a cocktail party. In my experiences, social media works best when it’s “natural” as opposed to “engineered.”

Since I encountered a situation that not only affected me, but forced me to go around social media to find what I’m looking for, I can see the value in these tools is the ease-of-use because it facilitates rapid decision-making. Last week, I would have instinctively known it’s importance not simply based on the one link alone, but the volume of people that were talking, sharing, commenting and interacting with it. While I feel it’s too soon to know if I could recognize that now (e.g. there’s lots of conversations happening all the time about lots of links) the conversation I had isolated the news and not only made it more important to me…but I was more curious about it and wanted to listen because I hadn’t already talked about it to death. The conversation wasn’t a rehash of what happened online; it was new.

Wow, all that from a single link!


About 100 Days: From April 4th to July 13th I’m turning the lights off on Facebook, Twitter and IMs for personal use. Read 100 Days: Turning off the Lights on Social Media for more information. You can also read the 100 Days post archive.

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