Tonight, I head down to my first Alliterates meeting with Matt Forbeck and others in attendance. The group was founded by novelist J Robert King. There’s something he’s always said to me, that’s as true now as it ever has been. And that is, being a professional regardless of what industry you’re in, is really about making friends and not looking at people as potential opportunities for your career.
I know a lot of you who follow my blog are new to the entertainment industry, but this is really important to grasp. If you seek out friendships simply because of what someone can do for you, you’ll might find yourself alienated and alone or worse — distrusted. Yes, there are people who do this, and it works for them. That’s their choice, not mine.
Personally, I believe that giving credit where credit is due is one of the most important things I can do, but ethics aren’t enough to feel satisfied. That’s where the friendships come into play and I thank Jason L Blair for that reminder.
Basing relationships on being a good friend means that you’re not always trying to be the star or to validate yourself. You’re supporting your friends whether they’re up or down, because that’s what friends do. And if someone is treating you like crap? Or they’ve forgotten about you because they’re thinking somebody else someone else is more important? Well, then you have a choice. You can either choose to deal with them like you would a friend that’s lost their way or you wait until they grow out of it. Remember, just because you’re nice, doesn’t mean you have to be a pushover.
Regardless, just like there isn’t one way to write, one way to promote yourself or your books, and one type of story to tell – there isn’t one way to be. It is absolutely possible to build a career on being friendly and paying it forward. Matt Forbeck is one of those people, and this is why we’re friends. He’s never talked down to me, never treated me like I wasn’t important enough, never made me feel like I wasn’t one of the “cool” kids. He’s not only supported my work, he’s been trying to convince me to do a Kickstarter of my own, and he’s always got a story to tell.
And because of that, combined with his talent, I will gladly support him regardless of where I am in my career. If treating people well doesn’t engender loyalty, then I don’t know what will.
- Mood: I’ve left the building.
Caffeinated Beverages Consumed: Trying to cut back. Not working.
Work-Out Minutes Logged Yesterday: Housework. A lot of it. NEVER ENDS.
Yesterday’s Projects: Editing
In My Ears: Da Birds.
Game Last Played: Battle Nations! Give me all your gold.
Movie Last Viewed: Ella Enchanted
Book Last Read: Leonardo Da Vinci’s Notebooks
Latest Artistic Project: Cross-stitch
Latest Release: Redwing’s Gambit for Bulldogs! the RPG